Sthandiwe Kgoroge, actress with Zanda (5)
How would you like Zanda to perceive beauty?
People would always say to Zanda: “Hey you, cute sdudla!” She used to get very sensitive about it until I told her to embrace everything about herself: her cute cheeks, her stunning smile, her healthy, beautiful body and her kind heart.
Beauty to me means being at peace with myself, accepting my flaws and actually celebrating them. We need to affirm ourselves from a very young age to avoid looking for affirmation in all the wrong places later. Nothing made me as emotional as the day Zanda’s teacher told me that she’d overheard her say: “I love my body; it’s beautiful.” Embrace it, Zanda!
What three hair lessons are you teaching her?
I’ve always loved natural hair and it’s never been about natural versus unnatural. So, it’s the same with Zanda:
1. As long as the decision isn’t influenced by a hate of self, I’m happy.
2. Always keep your mind and spirit clear, and you’ll be good.
3. Always keep your hair clean and healthy.
What’s your earliest hair memory? Living in Canada and running home after school to put a towel on my head – I was trying to fit in and look like everyone else. I love the way my parents handled that period in my life. They kept asking me why I would want to be like everyone else. I learnt to be happy with myself; I embraced and appreciated being different. I’ve never wanted to be “normal” since then.
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